Imagine your perfect romantic getaway. You plan a weekend alone with your partner in a picturesque location, with nothing in mind but enjoying each other’s company.
All of a sudden, their friends show up. You thought they were just dropping by, but as it turns out, they’re tagging along the entire time. They’re even sleeping in the same hotel room.
A Reddit user dealt with this exact situation with his girlfriend, who invited friends over during a beach trip he planned for just the two of them. With his plans ruined, he asked his significant other and her two pals to split the hotel costs with him. He now asks the AITAH subreddit if his actions were uncalled for.
You will also find our interview with California-based relationship coach Amie Leadingham, who shared her insights about setting boundaries.
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A man planned a weekend beach trip alone with his girlfriend when she decided to invite two of her friends
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The three women agreed to split the costs but also criticized the author
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Boundaries are bridges to understanding
The couple in the story seems to lack understanding between each other. As Leadingham reminds us, communication and mutual respect are the foundation of any strong relationship.
In this example, the supposed romantic getaway turned into a group trip. According to Leadingham, it also highlights the need for an open dialogue about setting expectations and personal space.
“It’s not about right or wrong but about aligning visions and honoring each other’s needs,” she told We.
Achieving growth in a relationship can take a lot of work, and as Leadingham told us, it stems from clearly expressing desires, actively listening, and finding a compromise that respects both parties.
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Setting boundaries requires baby steps to begin
If you’re not used to setting boundaries for yourself, making the change may require a slow approach. In an interview with the Cleveland Clinic, licensed psychologist Karen Salerno recommends starting with small changes until you’ve built enough confidence to establish this behavior.
However, taking that first step must also involve following through. Salerno stresses this point more than anything.
“If you don’t act on them, it may make it harder for other people to trust your boundary setting.”
Credit goes to the author for putting his foot down and asking for a split, which was understandable for him. We can only hope that it sent a strong message to his girlfriend and, at the very least, makes her think twice about doing the same thing again.
What do you think, dear readers? Was he out of line with the way he acted?
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Most people in the comments sided with him and criticized his girlfriend
YTA
