Being pregnant might come with the glow, the cravings, and a perfectly good excuse to live in stretchy pants—but apparently, it can also turn your sweet spouse into a fire-breathing dragon with a grudge against coffee, dinner, and your very existence.
One poor wife found herself caught in the hormonal crossfire, dodging insults over scrambled eggs and getting yelled at for daring to breathe before 9 a.m. But when she finally said something about it, the explosion that followed made her wonder if she had just committed the ultimate pregnancy sin.
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One woman tells her pregnant wife that hormones don’t justify being mistreated by her after she starts to unleash daily rage on her
The woman does everything to support her pregnant wife, but she screams at her every day, blaming her hormones for it
The wife throws a fit and calls the woman a jerk when she finally tells her that pregnancy doesn’t justify her behavior
The OP (original poster) and her wife were 6 months into a planned, wanted pregnancy. Everything was smooth sailing in the first trimester, but in trimester two, things went from sweet cravings to sour tempers real quick.
If she cooked dinner, it was not just wrong but also disgusting, as in a “get this away from me” kind of way. Not exactly the “thank you” she was expecting for trying to feed her growing family.
And that’s just the start. The woman’s daily routine turned into a minefield of potential outbursts. Clean the house? Wrong. Wake up for work? Offensive. Make coffee? A crime against her nose. It got to the point where the OP braced for at least one emotional explosion a day. The culprit? Pregnancy hormones, apparently.
But, after another intense yelling session, the OP calmly told her wife that pregnancy hormones don’t justify her constantly mistreating her. And that’s where explosion number 837 started, followed by her wife calling her the bad guy. But is she really the bad guy in this story? Can hormones really excuse that kind of behavior?
Pregnancy hormones absolutely impact mood and emotional regulation. During pregnancy, your body becomes a full-on chemistry lab, pumping out estrogen, progesterone, and a bunch of other hormonal overachievers that are just trying to grow a baby.
Estrogen, the diva of the hormone world, can crank up mood swings like nobody’s business, while progesterone slows things down, making you tired, weepy, or irrationally angry at spaghetti. However, that doesn’t mean it’s okay to lash out or be hurtful to a partner on a regular basis.
Just because someone’s pregnant doesn’t mean their partner becomes an emotional punching bag. There’s a big difference between having a cranky day and dishing out daily emotional smackdowns. The pros say that some red flags to look out for might be constant criticism, getting blamed for everything, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells 24/7, or having your feelings dismissed like yesterday’s leftovers.
Even the classic “silent treatment” or guilt trips can be signs things are going too far. These behaviors can slowly erode trust and create a toxic dynamic, even if they’re brushed off as “just hormones.” Compassion goes both ways, and yes, pregnancy is hard, but so is being emotionally bulldozed day after day.
Besides, being constantly positive, regardless of the situation, is not even healthy—that’s the glittery trap of toxic positivity. You know, when someone expects you to smile, stay upbeat, and never complain, even when you’re emotionally getting hit like a piñata at a toddler’s birthday party.
Toxic positivity doesn’t always come from the person suffering—it can also be forced onto the person supporting them, making them feel like they’re not allowed to be anything less than endlessly patient and cheerful, no matter how badly they’re treated. Spoiler alert: partners have feelings, too. Being pregnant is tough, but so is pretending everything’s fine while you’re emotionally worn thin.
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Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not the jerk in this story
