As creatures with the ability to recognize patterns, it should not come as a surprise that most of us start to piece together things that work and things that don’t. In common parlance, things that absolutely do not work are often called “red flags,” some sort of behavior or action that suggests that this person is likely to be unpleasant, immature or unlikeable.
Someone asked “26-30 year old’s: What lifestyle choice is an instant red flag?” and netizens shared their examples. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorite examples and add your own thoughts in the comments below.
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#1
A victim mentality. Everything is always someone else’s fault, and they never take accountability for anything.
#2
Anti-Vaxxers, people who refuse to spay/neuter their pets, Back Yard Breeders, only reading/listening to one sided new sources, people who believe there is only one true religion.
#3
I’m 27. The biggest red flag to me is when someone tries to live a life they cannot afford on their income.
#4
Friends who cheat on their partner.
#5
– Constantly involving other people in things that should be kept personal.
– Airing dirty laundry on social media. It’s embarrassing 🤡
I could go on for hours..
#6
Anyone that makes their political views their whole personality.
#7
Thinking you’re a superior human being because you exercise daily; eat healthy; don’t watch TV; have a clean house; pursue expensive hobbies; don’t drink or do dr**s; have a college degree; have a savings account; have zero debt……. Basically, garnering your self esteem through comparison to others 🚩
#8
Overworking to the point of burnout.
#9
Unemployment when you’re perfectly capable of finding a job.
#10
Anyone involved in a Pyramid Scheme.
#11
– When you still go out to party and “get wasted” more than 2x a week.
– When you have abandoned a child and pretends you’re a bachelor, single & free.
– When you don’t have savings and is still in between jobs or can’t stay in a company/employer longer than 3 months
– Can’t clean or practice proper hygiene
– Dr**s & Gambling
– Likes to date 18 year olds because they’re “fun”
#12
Having kids and only seeing them on holidays.
#13
Nails (this one a bit less), lash extensions, fillers, Botox, bbl etc.
#14
Thirsting heavily over random people, making crude sexual comments about appearances. Signifies a lack of self control.
#15
Carnivore diets. Anyone who tries to tell you that fruit is unhealthy is lying to you (exceptions for diabetics because they need to monitor all sugar intake)
#16
I’m a 31F. For me it was a 🚩when the 27y old guy I was dating told me that his breakfast every day was a Monster can. Every.Single.Day.
#17
People who judge based off looks only. i have heard every excuse, but have seen people fall victim or become bullies to what they see, and they are happy with not gathering evidence before they come to a conclusion. THIS makes me wonder who is actually trying to be an adult in those situations?
#18
I’m too young for this but: any significant purposeful investment in any kind of “alternative medicine.” even chiropractic, to a degree. anyone who buys into it is either willfully ignorant to a disturbing degree or just genuinely unable to think for themselves.
#19
Smoking cigarettes, being sedentary most days, not eating fruits and vegetables and drinking alcohol frequently.
#20
Vaping.
#21
Being obsessed with dating instead of chilling out and letting things happen naturally.
#22
Talking about high school/college friends/parties and constantly trying to re-live their “golden years” instead of striving forward.
#23
Depend on someone for your happiness.
#24
Starting a business with zero thought or plan 💯💯
#25
You don’t eat vegetables or fruit, you don’t drink water and you don’t exercise. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 just waiting to die ain’t it?
#26
People who can’t keep their house / apartment clean.
#27
Still being in college… and has been since he was 18, full-time without any semesters off, and hasn’t finished a single degree yet.
#28
Constantly putting everything on credit.
#29
Non-monogamy.
#30
Long distance relationships😩 5 years of my damn life down the drain for nothing.
#31
Ever engaged in hook up culture/ lack of commitment to anything but themselves.
#32
Financing a new luxury car.
#33
Supporting not-progressive political parties (republicans in the USA, conservatives in Canada).
#34
Eating out constantly and unable to cook for yourself, tipping 20% when you’re earning just as less as the employee, not learning basic chores, victim mentality in every situation.
#35
Drinking soda for breakfast.
#36
Going to every single rave.
#37
Ordering out every night.
#38
For us men I think when your primary past time is like video games. I like video games but I rarely have time for them. For women, doom scrolling TikTok while trying to maintain a conversation.
#39
The “let’s just live the present and let it flow” lifestyle.
#40
Getting a woman pregnant in an unstable relationship and no financial situation.
#41
Having a mini bar in every room.
#42
Any addiction.
#43
No goals, no will to improve your situation, lack of self care.
#44
Only fans.
#45
Living in a van.
#46
Religious.
#47
The freeloader. No car, no job, no ambition. Or the tech- addict. I spend most my time at home and don’t travel anymore, but I’ve got lots of animals that I care for and observe. Exotic animal husbandry and observation have become my preferred hobby. I don’t even have Wi-Fi or a tv in my house 😅 I’m not saying being anything different than me is a red flag but, you gotta have a hobby that’s not gluing you to technology.
#48
Partying every weekend 😬
#49
Starving artist.
#50
Using Snapchat daily.
#51
Being a rapper.
#52
Still wanting to have kids. I said what I said.
#53
Exploiting the authentic identity of others for social gratification. Obsessed with social media exploitation. Phone addiction.
#54
Laziness.
#55
One who refuses to get outside their comfort zone for growth.
#56
An unquestioning approach to consumerism, and the oppressive systems (colonialism, capitalism, ecological violence, patriarchy, etc) that we all live within.
#57
Saving absolutely all of your money for “retirement” and never getting at least a little tiny treat like bro i don’t even want to live until the age when people usually retire.
#58
Resistant to change, tends to abandon tasks easily, and lacks assertiveness in pursuing growth.
#59
Being a hedonist.
#60
Still being part of a big family where they treat you as powerless because you’re considered younger.
#61
Honestly roomates 🤮 if youre a grown man how tf do you expect to date a girl & have her take you seriously if youre living a dirty bro bachelor life style. Sorry i dont wanna have a sleep over with Kyle & Zach! Also too involved with the family. Soundcloud rappers. No desire to leave their hometown. Etc.
#62
Buying a harley.
#63
Skiing more than once a month.
#64
Wanting your steak, boiled eggs, or pasta well done.
#65
Not having at least 1 plant. If your place doesn’t have a single window, then fine. But if I walk in and there’s not 1 plant or at least a dead plant so ik u tried, im leaving.
#66
Gaining weight.
#67
Waking up late. But it’s not a red flag to other people, rather red flag for you to reconsider you life choices.
#68
For me it would be travelling to somewhere every weekend, it just shows that you cant put out roots ans settle and thats a red flag (note: I live in Europe).