Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, “what da heck was dat” moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.
And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned “let’s shame those weddings,” the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.
Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.
#1 Imma Use This One Sometime
#2 Photographer Shaming A Guest
#3 Just Hope There Isn’t A Third…
The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.
Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.
This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.
#4 4 Weddings And A Cat Party
#5 Found On Twitter
#6 Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter
But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”
We reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.
She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.
#7 This Is Terrible
#8 What A Hilarious Prank!
#9 I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On
Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.
Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.
“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.
#10 Real Life Soap Opera
#11 Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical
#12 It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know
#13 You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride
#14 Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price
#15 This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!
#16 Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!
#17 We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money
#18 A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider….
#19 Do Not Talk To The Bride At All
#20 Gahhh This Is Bad
#21 Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?
#22 Wedding Guest Shaming
#23 Yikes Yikes Yikes
#24 Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day
#25 “Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”
#26 Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit
#27 $250 Min Gift To Attend
#28 Ah Yes, The Good Old “Get Pregnant So I Won’t Need To Be In A Bridal Party” Scheme. Works Every Time
#29 She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous…. Except She’s Not The Bride
#30 I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?
#31 More Depressing Af Cake Toppers, Just Why?
#32 Tell Your Wedding Guests To Die
#33 Politics At Non-Political Events Is Probably My #1 Pet Peeve
#34 Bride Urges Guests To Uber To Her Wedding In Order To Avoid The “Quarantine Police”
#35 Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child
#36 The Bride Is On The Right
#37 From Pinterest. I Really Dislike Things Like This… Is Someone Forcing You To Get Married!?
#38 I Can’t Believe You’re Afraid Of Covid, What About My Wedding?
#39 Normal Thing To Do…
#40 A New Low?
#41 I Don’t Even Know Where To Begin
#42 While We’re On The Topic Of Cake Toppers….i Can’t Stand The “Woman Trapping The Man And Keeping Him From Things He Likes To Do” Trope. There Are Far Too Many Versions Of These
#43 Videographer Refuses To Do Same-Sex Weddings
#44 My Idiot Cousin Is Getting Divorced. After My Friend Told Me How They Got Engaged, I’m Not Surprised. Karma
#45 Bride In The Middle, Cow Who Turned Up To The Wedding In A White Dress With A Train On The Right
#46 Is It Wedding Shaming If The Groom Doesn’t Even Know They’re Dating?
#47 Taken From A Party Planning Site, Advising How To Have A Free Wedding. Other Gem Advice Was To Get Mother-In-Law To Make The Wedding Cake
#48 We Both Got Covid But All That Matters Is That We’re Married
#49 Well Ok Then….
#50 Brilliant Job By Videographer
#51 Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She’s Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn’t She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé
#52 “Hey, I Have An Amazing Idea For A Super Unique Pic!”
#53 I Don’t Know What To Say About This
#54 Yikes
#55 Making Fun Of Corona And Blm At Your 200+ Person Wedding. Yes This Was The Only Time Anyone Wore Masks
#56 Uh Oh… Shame. On. Us. (18k In The Group On Facebook)
#57 Because We All Want Our Guests Knowing We’ll Be Too Drunk For Sex On Our Wedding Night
#58 Great Wedding Photos
#59 Found In A Disney Shaming Group- I’m Sure Ashley Tisdale Would Be There!
#60 I Didn’t Realize A Pandemic Stopped Once You Are “Over It”
#61 “People Are Still Afraid.” I Mean, It’s Not Like The Pandemic Is Still Happening, Right?
#62 I’m Sorry, You’re Trippin About Your Ex At Your Wedding? Wat
#63 This Trend Is Universally Bad, But This Iteration Is The Worst I’ve Personally Seen To Date
