When a bridal couple takes their wedding vows, they are pledged as “partners”. This doesn’t mean that they get to decide what their significant other does with their bodies, right? Unfortunately, some people have a lot of trouble understanding this basic concept.
Just look at the original poster’s (OP) husband, who doesn’t want her to be on birth control as he doesn’t like how it “changes her hormones”. She complained that this is not the first time that he has tried to intervene while making decisions related to her body, so she shut him down, but he just sparked more drama!
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The poster has been married to her husband for 5 years, but she has noticed that he tries to intervene in decisions about her body
She wanted to be on birth control, but he objected, as he doesn’t like how it “changes her hormones”, and it’s not the first time he has done this
He has tried to control other decisions about a haircut or her getting a tattoo, so she reminded him that it’s her body and she decides what to do with it
Couples often fight over things, but this one is conflicting over how the husband is trying to control OP’s decision about her body. The thing is, they have been married for 5 years now, and never had major disagreements, until it came to her body. She feels that he doesn’t understand that since it’s her body, she gets to decide what she does with it.
It all started when she expressed that she wanted to go back on birth control again, but he was against it as he doesn’t like how it “changes her hormones”. Now, her argument is that he’s not the one who has to go through the whole anxious process of stressing over whether she’s pregnant or not. She straight out told him so, but probably didn’t expect this reaction from him.
The fellow got all defensive and claimed that she doesn’t care about “his feelings”. Really? This is not the first time, as she has noticed this pattern before, whether it be for getting a haircut or a tattoo. However, he got really annoyed when she told him that she makes decisions about her own body, and even accused her of being “disrespectful”.
Netizens immediately flagged him down as a problematic person, and even I agree with them. However, to get deeper insights into the couple, We reached out to Friyana Irani, a counseling psychologist who works at CREDO World School in Dahanu and Mind Wellness Centre in Wadala.
She believes that bodily autonomy is foundational in any healthy relationship. As per her, it reflects the principle that each partner retains ownership over their body, choices, and identity, even within the intimacy of a couple. Without bodily autonomy, relationships risk slipping into control or dependency, she added.
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